Sometimes you just have to take a moment to reset... meaning, clear your head, quiet your thoughts, reign in your emotions and just breathe.
It all comes down to how you think... whether your heart or your spirit leads the way will be up to where you let your mind go. Always acknowledge what you're feeling, just don't ACT on it until you have a moment to pray and to think. But you can own your feelings and still be rational about them. It's taken me a long time to get that. Because I never took the time to put boundaries on my feelings or apply any logic to them. I assumed (erroneously) that simply because I felt it, it was rational. (I know that sounds stupid, but you'd be surprised how many of us do that, whether we realize it or not.) It's as silly as saying, "I think, therefore I am." "I feel, therefore it must be so." Or, "Gee, it's in the newspaper or on the Internet, so it must be true."
Amazing... what we feel in any given moment isn't really what drives us. It's what we THINK about how we feel. If you choose to focus on a hurt or a problem, your thinking about that pain is what causes you to act on that pain. Or whatever your feeling is. That is letting the heart lead.
If, however, you own those feelings but instead choose to pray, to evaluate, to consider the options, then that is letting your spirit lead. But you are still thinking and making choices in this moment as well.
In other words, either way, it's the mind that determines the course you take. Are you going to choose your heart or your spirit? But make no mistake, you ARE making a decision, whether you know you are or not.
All in all, so far, subjecting my mind to Christ and choosing to let the spirit lead is working well. It helps me to see whether I'm feeling and emoting and expending time and energy on things that are irrational or incorrect, or things that are true. If there are negative or painful emotions associated with truth, well... I'll choose truth over my imagination. At least it will be based on something solid.
Sometimes it might take you a second (especially if you need practice!) to make the spirit choices... that is what I'm calling the reset.
Don't knock it til ya try it!
Monday, June 21, 2010
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
The End
You can love someone with all your heart
For all the right reasons
In a moment they can choose to walk away
Love'em anyway
We all want to be loved, to be cherished, to be part of something bigger than ourselves... When you find someone to love who loves you back, you should hold onto them with everything you have. Because this world is mean and hard and life can be tough. It's survivable, but sharing it is better than going it alone.
Sometimes, though, love ends... You think you are going to grow old with someone who just suddenly stops loving you, stops "feeling it," stops wanting you around... And it hurts. Real, real bad. You can do everything in your power to love someone and love them well. But you can't make them love you back. You can't make them stay. You can be as loving, supportive, encouraging, loyal and glue-ish as you can. You can talk until you turn blue and run out of words. You can hold them, dry their tears, make them laugh, enjoy them, pray with them, just... love them. But if they don't want it, they don't want it.
Um, for the record? That just sucks.
The truth is, it doesn't mean they don't "love" you. Maybe it does. Or maybe it just means that they aren't in the same place you are and can't give you what you want or need. It is terrible, yes. But it doesn't have to be anyone's fault.
I am not good with pain. I'm like, allergic. I feel things VERY INTENSELY (and usually in ALL CAPS!). And I spent the majority of my life running from and trying to escape the God-awful pain I feel right now.
That didn't work.
Pain is inevitable. But misery? That's optional.
I've learned a thing or two about love. And as much as it hurts, as scary as it can be... it's so worth it. I have my moments when I wish to God I'd never laid eyes on so-and-so or seen his stupid fish! : )
But you know what? I don't regret one second. Life's too short. I'm a better person for having loved and having tried. It sucks so much and hurts so bad that I lost it. But I wouldn't trade it.
Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.
Love anyway.
For all the right reasons
In a moment they can choose to walk away
Love'em anyway
We all want to be loved, to be cherished, to be part of something bigger than ourselves... When you find someone to love who loves you back, you should hold onto them with everything you have. Because this world is mean and hard and life can be tough. It's survivable, but sharing it is better than going it alone.
Sometimes, though, love ends... You think you are going to grow old with someone who just suddenly stops loving you, stops "feeling it," stops wanting you around... And it hurts. Real, real bad. You can do everything in your power to love someone and love them well. But you can't make them love you back. You can't make them stay. You can be as loving, supportive, encouraging, loyal and glue-ish as you can. You can talk until you turn blue and run out of words. You can hold them, dry their tears, make them laugh, enjoy them, pray with them, just... love them. But if they don't want it, they don't want it.
Um, for the record? That just sucks.
The truth is, it doesn't mean they don't "love" you. Maybe it does. Or maybe it just means that they aren't in the same place you are and can't give you what you want or need. It is terrible, yes. But it doesn't have to be anyone's fault.
I am not good with pain. I'm like, allergic. I feel things VERY INTENSELY (and usually in ALL CAPS!). And I spent the majority of my life running from and trying to escape the God-awful pain I feel right now.
That didn't work.
Pain is inevitable. But misery? That's optional.
I've learned a thing or two about love. And as much as it hurts, as scary as it can be... it's so worth it. I have my moments when I wish to God I'd never laid eyes on so-and-so or seen his stupid fish! : )
But you know what? I don't regret one second. Life's too short. I'm a better person for having loved and having tried. It sucks so much and hurts so bad that I lost it. But I wouldn't trade it.
Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.
Love anyway.
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